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Not unlike the “secular” community, Evangelicals often have just as many areas of division, contention and discord. As an Evangelical myself, I can admit that sometimes it is easier and more tempting to forego controversy by remaining silent on politics and social issues. To unite as one body under the Christian flag is ultimately the goal and because “worldly” things threaten to tear asunder this union, we, or perhaps more accurately I, at times, try to remove myself as much as possible and reflect on the heavenly kingdom. I once heard it said that although the Bible isn’t a political text, it is impossible or very difficult to have a relationship with the Lord and not care about the state of one’s nation, and to believe while we are in the world that the two are mutually exclusive is far from being a sound biblical teaching. In other words, the Holy Spirit impresses upon us care for our fellow man, our families, and the world around us, which logically manifests in a concern for our nations. If not articulated, this principle is understood by most Evangelicals to the point that it would be like arguing against the necessity of family structure, the absence of which we know empirically can be very devastating. So too can it be said of having no political concerns and remaining completely apolitical.

So it with a heavy heart as a evangelical that I write this to critique some of my brothers and sisters. Also, let it be known, that this writing doesn’t come from the desk of a righteous man or a person who is anywhere near where I would like to be in my walk with the Lord. I feel this is important to mention that I might retain some form of humility in writing this. Let the reader also be aware that I quite distinguish between critiquing a particular choice a person may make and judging a person fully on that choice. It almost represents a difference between a critique and a criticism, if you will, if that it be allowed that a critique would refer to a decision, while a criticism would refer to a person in more a general sense. The last isn’t what I want to do. These might seem like interchangeable concepts, and perhaps at one time they were, but in today’s world a tiny fraction of a person or their views is enough to warrant the mobs of “cancel culture” to mobilize. I desire not to do that in any fashion to those I critique today.

I should keep this brief though, so now, I will quickly move into my brief point. I am voting for Trump in this current election cycle and there are numerous reasons for that. The real challenge I saw that moved me beyond doubt, was a challenge I saw in a Facebook discussion, if we can call it that. The challenge was to make a case for Biden without mentioning Trump. A challenge I saw again and again unanswered. Now, I won’t say that I was completely neutral and wasn’t leaning Trump already, but I did try to keep myself open somewhat, particularly for a third party candidate. I also voted for Trump back in 2016, but that was because Hillary terrified me. I celebrated that night, but woke up the next morning going, “Oh no. Trump?!?” What did we just do? Yet, he has exceeded my expectations.

There are several reasons I agree with Trump in his running of the country, and there are some I disagree with, and even more I haven’t formed a strong opinion on other than just questioning them. I suppose that would be the case with any leader though. More so, there are several reasons that I agree with Trump when it comes to issues that concern us evangelicals. Being pro-life is obviously a big one, and a cause that many churches have been praying over for years. Another large one, Trump has been big on protecting religious liberty, particularly calling out abuses toward the Christian church, at home and abroad. Third, Trump keeps brokering peace with Israel, their neighbors, and even relatively more foreign nations. Along with his moving of the embassy to Jerusalem began a trend that other nations followed in suit. We Christians have been praying for these things, no doubt, and Trump being able to bring these to fruition, at least in a large degree, is something all Christians should be thankful for, because it wasn’t Trump who did it alone. That might want to make some people vomit reading that, because of the strong division between us, but is it really biblically that odd that our Lord would use imperfect people for His purposes? Not only is that a biblically sound statement, if all man is inherently sinful, then it is a logical statement.

This is my point and my encouragement to the Church. I saw that Trump went to a church and many were offended and it caused division, and that isn’t what the church should be to my knowledge. I recall churches all over praying for Obama, and if he had walked into my church and asked for prayer, you better believe I am going to pray for him. That shouldn’t be controversial at all. When we look at the New Testament we find that one of the faults with the Jews at the time (some of them) was that they were waiting for a political messiah which Jesus Christ turned out to be anything but. He had no political ambition, no political power, and surrounded Himself with the poor and destitute rather than the rich and powerful. One of the reasons Christ was rejected is because He brought no political power with Him and didn’t match up with the views at the time, or the prominent view, that the Messiah would be a true king of Israel rather than the Savior of Man and King of Heaven. (Please note I am not comparing Trump with Jesus Christ!)

In a sense, times haven’t changed that much. We are still looking for a political messiah which is an aim that is not going to serve us anymore than it served the Pharisees. We have prayed time and time again over the practice of abortion, persecution, the nation of Israel, appointment of conservative and originalist judges on the Supreme Court, and these things are and have been coming to pass, but because the leader that has brought them, Trump, isn’t the political messiah we seek, we fail to see what God has done. God’s works on our behalf. We forget to praise Him and too effortlessly abandon the means by which the Lord has used to achieve it. Now Trump isn’t beyond criticism, I find his bombast annoying to be honest. That might be a shallow criticism, but it is true nonetheless. However, should his insults and this extreme bombast exclude him from being improved by God or God using him to serve good? Absolutely not and I think God using him is an ongoing thing. Can’t this argument be applied to Biden? Sure, I suppose it could be, but then we have to ask the question if a person is anointed if it will represent itself in some way? I argue it can, and a person who was in office for 47 years and as Vice President had no issue with Israel and the Jews being overlooked in favor of their enemies, and uses Catholicism as it helps him, and has hardly mentioned Jesus at all or gave glory to him, doesn’t have the anointed spirit. A man who speaks in favor of Israel, brokers deals on their behalf to bring peace as well as opening up trade, a person who is pro-life, a person who speaks out in defense of Christians, appoints a devout Christian as his Vice President and running mate; all these things impart to us a semblance of anointing. Now, does this all mean Trump saved? That question is a little beyond my scope of knowledge and pay grade I am afraid, but at the same time I don’t consider it out the realm of possibility.

I mention the criticism of Biden because I want to point out a difference between a Christian not voting Trump and voting Biden and a Christian not voting Trump and voting for some third-party candidate. In the latter, I have no qualms with you and no critique to offer because other than basic understanding of the third-party candidates, I am not really up to speed. You may be very well justified in your vote for a third-party instead of Biden because your morals, ethics, and political philosophy regarding voting are intact, while some who vote Trump cannot (as you may conclude) say the same. That is fine, but if you are looking for a political messiah, you have no more reason to vote Biden than Trump. As I see it anyway, but I am open to discussion.

Ultimately, again, this whole entry was a entreaty to not focus so much on whether we have a political Messiah, but rather reflect on what the Lord is trying to do. One thing we can be sure of is that our Lord is not trying to do is sow division in His church, and so with those brief observations do not let the spirit of politics disrupt the Spirt of God.

God bless.


“Listen, my son, to your father’s instruction and do not forsake your mother’s teaching.” —Proverbs 1:8

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The family is a structure and system that is very important to God. This is made evident all throughout the scripture. In fact, it is part of the ten commandments which not only show us our need for salvation, but give us clear insight into the being and character of God.

“Honor your father and your mother, so that you may live long in the land the Lord your God is giving you.” —Exodus 20:12

God’s design for the family is really quite amazing, especially when one considers the Lord within it. Simply, the family system is directly representational of the relationship we have with God. Now, I realize that some of what I am about to write will offend some of those with greater feminist sensitivities. What I mean is feminism, and I do agree with some aspects of this title, but I disagree with what we will call radical feminism. It could be said those points I do agree with I feel extend beyond feminism to greater questions concerning equality, not necessarily limited to women.

Like it or not society has it’s conceptions of what the family system entails. Mainly, the father is a provider and mother a nurturer. It seems that despite the efforts of some we cannot get rid of these “roles” manifest in the family. Why that is is simple. It’s how God designed it. It is we who have put levels of importance on these roles, not God. To God, both are of extreme and equal importance in that they should edify each other in a proper family system. As I said before it is representational of God, both the father and mother roles. The Lord provides, nourishes, nurtures, and so too do the father and mother within the family. It is so representational in fact, that one could substitute God, for “father,” and “mother” in both verses written above and not contradict scripture one bit.

In contemporary society, why is it we feel the need to vilify the mother’s role above all else? The paradox of this is that a lot of the current mode of thinking was enticed by women and the radical feminist movement, which supposes such an honorable role is lesser then the one imposed or taken by the male. To me this is absurd, for they even vilify those who focus on nurturing by choice. On a philosophical and logical level they are in essence shooting themselves in the foot.

Of course, because it was designed by God, everyone has a inkling this is or may be the case. That’s why the Scripture is attacked above all else by radical feminists for a variety of reasons. They claim that God and His Word is a form of backwards thinking, that it is holding the world back from development into some utopia, or that it speaks of intolerance and inequality. Their claims and arguments are false. The Father/Mother relationship is one that is representational as we have said. Are we to say that God in His perfect nature is unequally yolked with Himself? How absurd an idea! Yet, they don’t find it absurd because they don’t find God a reality. We find God a reality and thereby know Him as perfect, equally great in all His attributes.

I implore the reader to change their mindset. Don’t listen to radical feminists who talk about our God being unequal and His design being flawed. The only flaw is what man brought upon himself, not God. Yes, believe in equality and strive for it that you may show the love of Christ unto all in an equal measure, but don’t suppose one is more important than another based on what God has designed. Are we called to do this among the body of Christ? No! In fact, we are told to strive against it! We are to unify in our differences and not separate because of them.

All roles manifest in the Father/Mother relationship are of equal importance, and when unified rear a child in ways denoting greatness. What makes it great and important is not one role or the other, but the working of the two as one. Am I saying then that a single mother cannot rear a child properly and that the offspring is destined for something less then great. By the grace of God, no I am not. Is there a likelihood though that if not in a proper family system, a child may be raised without a particular element which provides a means of struggle? Yes, in all likelihood. However, I am stopping way short of calling this an absolute, for I know many examples of the contrary.

I know of many great kids and young adults who have been raised by single parents.

This leads to another argument. This argument is logically near equivalent in that it has to do with importance of roles. The argument in our contemporary society is that the father and mother roles are of such little importance that either one can be negated in the rearing of a child. This is equally absurd as the first argument that states one must be greater than another. If we negate both, as sad as it is this can be the case at times, then we often find developmental issues associated with the lack of having parents and guidance. Again, I won’t state this as an absolute, but it is much more apparent then if we negate just one or another of the father/mother relationship. If it is much more apparent, then can’t we well say that because if two are absent, there is a detrimental consequent, then doesn’t it follow that if one or the other is absent, then there may be a consequent? We certainly can and being the case we see that both roles are important in the rearing of a child.

Lastly, these verses tell us not all responsibility falls on the parental figures. Rather, we as children are called to honor our parents and listen to them as in accordance with God’s will and His very nature.


“I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master’s business. Instead, I have called you friends, for everything that I learned from my Father I have made known to you.” -John 15:15


I recall coming across this verse not too long after first becoming a Christian. When I read it, it touched me greatly because I had been in prayer and was consistently praying for a friendship with God, but didn’t even know at the time if it was biblical or not. It may seem odd, but as my eyes ran along the beautiful words I started weeping there at my table at the local Starbucks over my newly acquired leather-bound NIV translation and my rapidly cooling vanilla latte.


The thing was that I had heard many of the titles our relationship with the Lord is commonly referred to. These included, of course, much of the immediate family designations, as well as those that symbolize authority over those who are subservient. Yet, as far as I could recall, I never heard of a “friendship” between us and Christ.

In my life I hold my friends to high esteem, and as my relationship with the Lord grew, so did the desire to, not only call Him my savior, but my Friend as well. It seemed rather silly, but to me somehow extremely important. Thus, when I ran across, or was lead to this verse, it seemed deeply personal as if the Lord was indeed acknowledging that we were indeed friends.

As touched as I was at that moment, another thought came into my mind. It hadn’t been long since I was out of the party scene and I had the distinct image of me strolling through one of those sinful shindigs. I was walking around socializing and I recalled or was shown some of us conversing about some non-present individual that we hold to high regard for one reason or another.


I immediately saw how silly it was. We have the most arbitrary reasons for holding people to high esteem. We even at times envy those who are more indulgent in sin than we are! Other times we envy people for ridiculous things like popularity or fame.


Fame is a weird one. We have the odd desire to attach ourselves to famous people. If you were at a get together, and I don’t include everyone who is reading this mind you, and you happen to be a friend of one of the Kardashian’s, you would probably not hesitate to bring it up in every possible conversation you can, for it somehow fulfills your pride, or gives you the sense of having more self worth.


Why can’t we do that when it comes to Christ? We should be looking at every conversation as an opportunity to tell people we are friends with Jesus.


– “Hey, you know that Jesus Christ guy?”

– “Uh, yeah.”

– “Dude, I am great friends with Him!”

– “What? Really? You know Jesus?”

– “Absolutely!”

– “Well, come on. What’s He like?”

. . . And so on and so forth.

For some reason we would have no issues bringing up the fact that we are friends with Snookie or saw her in a store once, but when it comes to Christ we clam up. Now I don’t know if God showed me these things in my minds eye or if it’s because I have an over active imagination. In either case, it serves to me as a conviction and as a reminder to how freely we should share Christ, which is the greatest, most famous person who lives to this day and offers us the greatest gift one could ever receive, that of eternal life. He should be a constant topic and we should boast loudly that we and Him are the greatest of friends.